About Resentment on your fertility journey
When we go through challenging situations, the usual default reaction is to protect ourselves by blaming other people. They didn't have the right reaction, the right words, they should have been there for me when I needed, known better, done better...
But here's something that will change your life: If you decide to blame people for the bad, you should also blame them for the good. If you're going to give them credit about all the wrong that happened, then you also have to give them credit for everything that's right.
Because there's always two sides to every story if you have the patience and are willing to see. Two sides to every challenge that life may bring and in order to release one you have to investigate the other.
If you feel resentment towards another person, let's take the example of that friend that didn't say the words right, that didn't react the way you expected, that didn't show they were understanding what you were going through, what exact gesture and words you needed on your challenging journey. If you decide to blame them for the bad, then also blame them for what turned out great:
Blame them for how resilient you have become.
Blame them for being more caring, patient and compassionate towards yourself and others - because you know what's the opposite.
Blame them for not letting what other people say or do hurt you so much anymore.
Blame them for not letting your own happiness depend on someone else.
Blame them for deciding to take ownership and speak over your life what it is that you want for yourself.
If they had been the friend you wanted, you wouldn't be the woman, the man, the friend and the mom-to-be that you are today.
Life isn’t perfect, it's not meant to be. You can't control all that happens to you in life, but you can control how you react to it.
Choose the version of your story that you want to remember, the one that will make you happier, feel more fulfilled and most of all, GROW & MOVE FORWARD on your journey to your baby!
